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Oh It’s Like That? The Art of Cutting People Off & Feelin’ A Way About It by @Rahim_VladTV

“Lost a couple friends, this whole shit got weird.” – Jay-Z, Do You Wanna Ride,  Kingdom Come
So let’s get right into it.
I won’t slander this female whatsoever because, that’s not what this is about. This isn’t a diss song, it’s a real song.
Also, she’s a very amazing person, pretty inside and out, and we’re ultimately on the Same Team.
But I feel some kind of way.
So today right, I get a phone call from an old but new friend. An old friend because I have known her for a while, but new because I have literally only seen her once or twice. (Friend #1)
That conversation went great, and we ended up building, but the person was calling in reference to ANOTHER friend, who I have known even longer, and had conversation upon conversation with, and even extensively engaged in business with in the past.
So friend 1 asks about friend 2 (on a business level).
I say “oh yeah sure I know her, she’s great and I would connect you two, but we just don’t speak as much.
Then I decided that because I love to build bridges for people so that they can network, I’ma link this.
Ayit, bet.
I’m like, let me hit up friend #2 so I can co-sign friend #1….
I’m already on facebook, so let me just send friend#2 a quick message and see what she thinks.
So I try to type F#2’s name in the search bar, and NOTHING COMES UP.


Ayit bet, so now eyebrows raised, I go and type in their name fully and I get this:

got 'em?

So the first thing I think to myself is, THAT SON OF A ……. what the hell?
Note: Removing someone on facebook is like damn. Twitter, yeah you unfollow someone because maybe you don’t want to be exposed to their tweets all day…but deleting someone who you are friends with in real life from your facebook page is like throwing a bone into quicksand and sending your dog to go get it. You’re really not interested in seeing them in any way shape or form again.

So then, I go on an analytic rampage, trying to come up with all the reasons why friend #2 would do that, I don’t remember ever having beef with them or any situation where we wouldn’t at least be cordial. And I couldn’t come up with any. In my mind, I begin to try and come up for reasons why I shouldn’t like the person. That’s pretty wack, I know but I felt as if them not liking me would justify my childish thoughts anyway. Also, I can think whatever I want, so thanks.
“(S)he who does not feel me is not real to me therefore they don’t even exist so poof, vamoose son of a b….”
Yeah I look to rap verses sometimes to put things in perspective. You’d do it too if you were me.
So I’m starting to get all crazy, trying to come up with beef, put pieces together, and I even get angry at myself for still co-signing her even after we ceased working together, all that.
So here’s the kicker: I go one last time and type in her name…scroll down the page, and BAM.
She has two accounts.
We were connected on her primary account the whole time.
Get it?
There’s a moral to this story.
I felt all betrayed and upset those whole 15 minutes, FOR NO REASON.
I actually found this out while I was throwing darts at a picture of her writing this blog…at first I didn’t know what direction I was going with it but here I am.
Hopefully I could help “learn us” a little something about our friends, old and new.
ASSumptions are still alive, they just be concealing it.
Premature judgement is like premature ejaculation… too much, too soon.
Catch my drift?
Now forward this to someone who you haven’t spoken to in a while, and see if you can hash out some foolishness, that you know was really YOUR FAULT not that serious.
Comments? Want to just make laugh at me for being wrong? Go for it below.
Friend #2 will probably read this…my bad!
Hey at least I didn’t badmouth you to anyone else still, even when I was “mad.” Let’s hug it out one day.
*Drops mic*
Rahim The Dream (new handle –i’ll explain later, but for now let me get back to this paper) Wright.

Obama’s “State Of The Union” Drinking Game! From @Rahim_VladTV via Huffington Post

Obama Drinking

If this is how we can get you to pay attention to Obama, then so be it



Obama says “let me be clear” Do one shot
Obama says “change isn’t easy” Do one shot
Obama says “make no mistake” Do one shot
Obama says “Let me be clear, change isn’t easy, make no mistake.” He’s screwing with you to get you drunk, so five shots
Joe Wilson yells something Do two shots
Obama yells back Finish the bottle
Obama says “jobs” Do one shot, two if you’re unemployed
Obama says “health care” Do not drink, you will not be given a replacement liver
Nancy Pelosi claps like a seal Do one shot
Nancy Pelosi becomes a seal STOP DRINKING FOR THE LOVE OF GOD
Obama mentions Bo Put beer in your dog’s water bowl
Michelle Obama wears a slinky dress Go immediately to the HuffPost Style page for close-ups
Joe Biden nods-off/laughs inappropriately/starts talking before the speech is over Do three shots
Obama uses the term “Congressional leadership” Do two shots carefully as all that laughing will make it difficult to swallow
Obama says he’s “fighting for you” Do one shot, two if you believe him
Obama mentions Haiti Text “Haiti” to the number 90999 and donate $10 to the Red Cross

Beautiful Inside And Out: A Poem By @Celebkitty

A Poem By Kitty.

You Gon’ Think I Invented Text: The Remix (Ladies Don’t Pick Up The Phone Either) & The Video feat @CandiedJamz

oh you thought it was just us guys being obnoxious????

Here is my homegirl CandiedJamz:

jamz. not to be confused with jelly.

You gon' think she invented text 2.

I’d rather text than talk.

1. ET Phone Home. Growing up all I did was talk on the phone. I mean hours and hours. I would fall asleep on the phone, and the guy would be like ‘are you sleep?’ and I would say ‘no I’m up’.  I just loved talking on the phone, for what reason, I don’t know. Now, you couldn’t pay me to stay on the phone for ONE hour, let alone multiple ones. Ugh.

2. Circles not squares. I really hate circular conversations. You know the types…A: what are you doing? B: nothing. You? A: nothing, how you been? B: fine. You? It gets to be really annoying. No one wants to just hold a phone and give/get one word questions and answers. It’s corny, and an all around waste of time.

3. Mental Stimulation Verbal Penetration. I have noticed from personal experience that sometimes it’s easier to text/BBM/email something you want to say rather than tell a person on the phone or in person. That might be feelings, breaking up, business, etc. Sometimes texting is my ‘liquid courage.’

If you want to talk to me, text or BBM me
. I’m more likely to answer a twitter @reply (@candiedjamz) than to answer my phone. There are are far better things you could be doing with your tongue, than using it to talk.

*drops mic*

Rahim: Thank you Ms. Jamz…and here is the visual. Ironically, our blog post came out wayyy before this video, but why hate just because they bit? It’s interesting.

You Gon’ Think I Invented Text: Why We Don’t Pick Up The Phone by @Rahim_VladTV feat. @DrJayJack

6 Reasons Why We Won’t Pick Up & We Let Our Thumbs Do The Talkin’

Girl, you gon think we invented text...yuuup

1. We’re not in high school anymore
Back when I was a lil’ pickney, we didn’t have cell phones.  House phones were the boo-cakin weapon of choice, and we had to share them our family members. Young lovers would lust for the chance to phone bone themselves into handheld exstacy all through the devil’s hours of the night, or until your parents heard you and picked up on of the other phones to embarrass you. Who remembers that? You’re on the phone, momma picks it up and starts dialing all over your sexy time, until you have no choice but to take your hand out your pocket & yell:

Well I need to use it so get off!”
“Awww mom.”
Yes, I remember those moments when less meant so much more.
Now that your gigglin, reminiscin’ or whatever, please note that back then:

1a) we didn’t pay the bill
b) we didn’t have “real jobs” to wake up to the next morning
c) text messaging plans costed an extra 10 jillion a month
We don’t have the same problems anymore, but let’s be real. I’m going to save us the arguement over who hangs up first by erasing the call altogether. Ima send you a “have a good night hun!” You gon think I invented text.

2. Go play somewhere, I’m busy

Last time I checked, you ladies had no love for a man who stays home swirlin his pubes. (There is a time & place for that though.) I’m the type of brother that likes to get up get out and do somethin’ I work in an industry where my blackberry stays attached to my hip, or most times via my thumbtips. Guess what, if I’m at the office, and you call me:

2a) I’ma think you don’t respect what I do…who calls people on their cell while they are at work expecting them to pick up? And unless we’re breaking bread, you can’t have my office number. The fun part about this is that my hours are so haphazard that this is pretty much unfair. Not only do I do my thang in the office, but if I’m not there, then I’m most likely at a listening event, album release, movie screening, in studio session, interview, yadda yadda check my twitter. Oh yea, and the noise level at those places is always too loud. My bad. But guess what? If you text me, ima hit you right back. Girl you gon think I invented text.

3. “I don’t Check My Voicemail…”

Now I may have sounded like an asshole on the other 2 but somebody’s got to feel me on this shit right chea.

I never was a fan of checking my voicemail because I just never feel like it but I’ma call this one the “DJ Vlad,” because he actually announces on his voicemail “I don’t check my voicemail, so if you are looking to get in contact with me, PLEASE TEXT ME.”
There is a wave of folk who can’t stand holding down 1.  Furthermore, if i didn’t want to hear  or talk to you before, chances are as soon as you start talking, I’m gonna press “7.” ESPECIALLY IF I DONT LIKE OR I FIND YOUR SUBJECT MATTER TRIVIAL. Let the chuuch say amen, because I know quite a few people who think exactly the same way. Those are the exact same people who i pick the phone up for, because I know that if they are calling me, it must be important– see how this sucks for you works?Protip: Send us a text saying “please call it’s important.”  Note: Crying wolf on this will lead to unamazing communication with me in the future, by the way.

Some folks argue that a text conversation is foolish because you can handle everything quickly and efficiently with a phone call. I feel it cuts out all the unnecessary “hey what’s up” and bs talk when you really called me because you needed something…and then the awkward filler conversation & closure of the call after the point of the call has been reached is never good times. If you need something, or want to holla, text me!  I don’t have a problem with people sending me short requests because, “if you can’t be used, your useless.” (got that from ‘Ye).

Am I being obnoxious? Sounds like it, but add “upfront” to that description. Give me your thoughts on this, because I know there’s way more subject matter to cover. Let me know what you think… actually, never mind. I know what you gon’ think. 🙂

Editor’s Note: Ladies, above does not apply to drunk phone calls, depending on how good you look.

In walks Dr. Jay Jack…


word to my hat you betta text me or we ain't speakin

Radio, I got em. I wanted to just piggyback a few points here.  1) Even my mother texts, BBMs, and AIMs me, 2) You always say men can’t multitask, but when we try, you deny us our civil liberties, and 3) T-Mobile never lied when they said, Fave 5I’ll be brief.

1)      My fave 5. I have about five people who if they call me, I’ll always pick up.  It’s three guys and two girls.  These people have been in my fave 5 since college.  It will take a long time for someone else to fit their way into my fave 5.

2)      I like to multi-task.  In short, once I pick up the phone, I now stop receiving text messages and BBMs, it’s horribly inefficient.  I also use my phone for gchat too.  So where as I can be having conversations with 10 people, I now must stop what I’m doing to just talk to you.

3)      Lastly, my mother is probably the one woman on this planet who likes to talk to me a lot and all the time.  However, even my mother has learned that if she would like to do that she should learn how to engage in some textual communication.  And I’m sorry if my mother can text me or BBM me, then for Christ’s sake I have no sympathy for the rest of you.

If your goal is to communicate with me, then communicate. Also note, stressing me out about not being able to talk on the phone will not aide in your cause either, it will only make me stop texting you too.

“The Silent Epidemic” by @damnkam “Have You Taken A Look Around Lately?”


it's not always about getting your fat on

post by Damn Kam

Have you taken a look around lately? Noticed anything? Perhaps obesity, and how it’s reared its ugly head in the black community? I have and I can tell you that I’m not pleased. And rightfully so. Long gone are the days where one could cop a plea and use the excuse I wasn’t aware.” We live in the information age for heavens sake, making information readily and easily available…for everyone. The same way you check your man’s web browser history could be the same way you research diabetes and hypertension. Both of these silent epidemics are ravishing the black community in numbers I’m sure you wouldn’t even believe  According to, the prevalence of diabetes among African Americans is about 70% higher than white Americans.  But fine, you don’t feel like going to the gym out of fear that you’ll risk sweating out the hair that took you more than four hours in a hot salon to perfect. I understand that completely. Fine, you’re not interested in keeping the exact waist size you had in college. I understand that completely too. I too have since added some meat on my bones. But what I don’t understand is how a responsible woman can look at herself in the mirror and disregard her health? We can stop the denial and defense mechanisms here.

When you find yourself unable to walk up a flight of stairs without feeling winded and have more gut spilling than maple syrup in the local IHOP, you can proceed to scratch off the idea that you’re a health conscious woman. Sorry ladies just save it. The next time I see a woman checking her hair and make-up and not checking her stomach, I’m going to scream! Where are the priorities? Now, I know you’re wondering why is she coming down so hard on the ladies? Well, I figure someone had to say it before it was too late to save the masses. If this was a Spike joint, MESSAGE would fly across the screen here. And it’s obvious that your so-called “friends” haven’t had the guts to say it to your face. But before you get all upset with me, hear me out first. I do have some gems for you.
The gym is a wonderful place to be ladies! Not only does it help preserve your sexy, but MEN are there…in droves. Wondering where your next date might turn up? Add the gym to your new list of options. And if you’re anything like me, there is never a wrong time in the day for some eye candy. There is a plethora of men in the gym and they are all at your service. Well, maybe not all. How is this possible you may ask? Well, for starters men don’t have hair to worry about certainly not the men you want to be dating. Men are physically self conscious just like women but to a different extent. And hello this is what they think you want. Ladies take your asses to the gym.
That same chick from earlier who was checking her hair and make-up and not checking her stomach surely won’t be found in the gym so that means less competition. Also, so many women are just flat out lazy. All this independent talk: own place, own job, and not one “owned” gym membership? Nothing screams independent more than a woman on top of her health and physical well-being. So to all the ladies who have taken the initiative to get to their local gym, Kudos to you! Now, I know that the gym can be an overwhelming place, but you can’t let the gym culture discourage you. Sure, you’ll encounter some hard core gym rats who may seem intimidating or appear as if they have it all together. This may make you question yourself from time to time. But you can’t focus on that. Focus on how great you’re going to look next summer in that bathing suit or focus on the cutie in front of you working on his abs. Ooh la la!

More importantly, the gym/exercise makes you feel good. Yes, you heard me correctly; it makes you feel great! You’re releasing endorphins, ridding your body of toxins, and clearing your head in the process. Sounds like a win-win right? Not to mention it’s been proven that working out does wonders for the skin. Who needs that MAC counter when that skin is glowing naturally? The gym is also known to do wonders for your libido as well. So you’ve burnt off those lunch calories at the gym and once you get home you’re about to burn off even more with some in between the sheets action.

Alright so you’ve figured out that maybe the gym just wasn’t for you. Not a problem because like college the gym isn’t for everybody. A lot of the obesity issues are stemmed from poor eating habits anyway. You know the Mcdonalds for breakfast, Burger King for lunch, and Chinese for dinner schedule. And not to mention all the snacks throughout the day. If you know for a fact that you aren’t going to be an active gym member, better eating habits should become your best friend. In fact, changing the way you eat can ultimately change the way you look. I know the sweets and fattening food will be hard to divorce but think of your heart. Your poor little heart. Its been taking a beating and eventually it will give out on you. Why even let it get to that point? Slowly pace yourself away from the extra stuff. Instead of two slices of cheesecake how about one? And only a slice or two a week but not everyday. Companies have made things a lot easier for you as well. Let’s take these new 100 calorie bag of goodies for example. These are your friend when used correctly. Eating three bags of 100 calorie snacks isn’t helping the cause. As the saying goes, anything bad is good for you in moderation. Apply that to your diet.

No one said it would be easy, but the reward is well worth it in the end (no pun intended). Start replacing some of those snacks throughout the day with a healthier alternative. Instead of chips how about fruit slices? And did you know a lot of the calories you gain are from drinking sugary drinks like Snapple and sodas? Perhaps opting for water and natural fruit juices would be a better alternative. This process will take time. Rome wasn’t built in a day and your eating habits certainly won’t change overnight. The key is awareness, identifying, and finding a solution that works best for you. Don’t give up the good fight! Don’t become a statistic to obesity!

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