“The Silent Epidemic” by @damnkam “Have You Taken A Look Around Lately?”


it's not always about getting your fat on

post by Damn Kam

Have you taken a look around lately? Noticed anything? Perhaps obesity, and how it’s reared its ugly head in the black community? I have and I can tell you that I’m not pleased. And rightfully so. Long gone are the days where one could cop a plea and use the excuse I wasn’t aware.” We live in the information age for heavens sake, making information readily and easily available…for everyone. The same way you check your man’s web browser history could be the same way you research diabetes and hypertension. Both of these silent epidemics are ravishing the black community in numbers I’m sure you wouldn’t even believe  According to Blackhealthcare.com, the prevalence of diabetes among African Americans is about 70% higher than white Americans.  But fine, you don’t feel like going to the gym out of fear that you’ll risk sweating out the hair that took you more than four hours in a hot salon to perfect. I understand that completely. Fine, you’re not interested in keeping the exact waist size you had in college. I understand that completely too. I too have since added some meat on my bones. But what I don’t understand is how a responsible woman can look at herself in the mirror and disregard her health? We can stop the denial and defense mechanisms here.

When you find yourself unable to walk up a flight of stairs without feeling winded and have more gut spilling than maple syrup in the local IHOP, you can proceed to scratch off the idea that you’re a health conscious woman. Sorry ladies just save it. The next time I see a woman checking her hair and make-up and not checking her stomach, I’m going to scream! Where are the priorities? Now, I know you’re wondering why is she coming down so hard on the ladies? Well, I figure someone had to say it before it was too late to save the masses. If this was a Spike joint, MESSAGE would fly across the screen here. And it’s obvious that your so-called “friends” haven’t had the guts to say it to your face. But before you get all upset with me, hear me out first. I do have some gems for you.
The gym is a wonderful place to be ladies! Not only does it help preserve your sexy, but MEN are there…in droves. Wondering where your next date might turn up? Add the gym to your new list of options. And if you’re anything like me, there is never a wrong time in the day for some eye candy. There is a plethora of men in the gym and they are all at your service. Well, maybe not all. How is this possible you may ask? Well, for starters men don’t have hair to worry about certainly not the men you want to be dating. Men are physically self conscious just like women but to a different extent. And hello this is what they think you want. Ladies take your asses to the gym.
That same chick from earlier who was checking her hair and make-up and not checking her stomach surely won’t be found in the gym so that means less competition. Also, so many women are just flat out lazy. All this independent talk: own place, own job, and not one “owned” gym membership? Nothing screams independent more than a woman on top of her health and physical well-being. So to all the ladies who have taken the initiative to get to their local gym, Kudos to you! Now, I know that the gym can be an overwhelming place, but you can’t let the gym culture discourage you. Sure, you’ll encounter some hard core gym rats who may seem intimidating or appear as if they have it all together. This may make you question yourself from time to time. But you can’t focus on that. Focus on how great you’re going to look next summer in that bathing suit or focus on the cutie in front of you working on his abs. Ooh la la!

More importantly, the gym/exercise makes you feel good. Yes, you heard me correctly; it makes you feel great! You’re releasing endorphins, ridding your body of toxins, and clearing your head in the process. Sounds like a win-win right? Not to mention it’s been proven that working out does wonders for the skin. Who needs that MAC counter when that skin is glowing naturally? The gym is also known to do wonders for your libido as well. So you’ve burnt off those lunch calories at the gym and once you get home you’re about to burn off even more with some in between the sheets action.

Alright so you’ve figured out that maybe the gym just wasn’t for you. Not a problem because like college the gym isn’t for everybody. A lot of the obesity issues are stemmed from poor eating habits anyway. You know the Mcdonalds for breakfast, Burger King for lunch, and Chinese for dinner schedule. And not to mention all the snacks throughout the day. If you know for a fact that you aren’t going to be an active gym member, better eating habits should become your best friend. In fact, changing the way you eat can ultimately change the way you look. I know the sweets and fattening food will be hard to divorce but think of your heart. Your poor little heart. Its been taking a beating and eventually it will give out on you. Why even let it get to that point? Slowly pace yourself away from the extra stuff. Instead of two slices of cheesecake how about one? And only a slice or two a week but not everyday. Companies have made things a lot easier for you as well. Let’s take these new 100 calorie bag of goodies for example. These are your friend when used correctly. Eating three bags of 100 calorie snacks isn’t helping the cause. As the saying goes, anything bad is good for you in moderation. Apply that to your diet.

No one said it would be easy, but the reward is well worth it in the end (no pun intended). Start replacing some of those snacks throughout the day with a healthier alternative. Instead of chips how about fruit slices? And did you know a lot of the calories you gain are from drinking sugary drinks like Snapple and sodas? Perhaps opting for water and natural fruit juices would be a better alternative. This process will take time. Rome wasn’t built in a day and your eating habits certainly won’t change overnight. The key is awareness, identifying, and finding a solution that works best for you. Don’t give up the good fight! Don’t become a statistic to obesity!

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Moving Forward by @damnkam feat. Words from Katt Williams


moving right along

posted by DamnKam


Katt Williams said it years ago and we all laughed “if you over 25 still talking about how men aint shit, look at the common denominator in this here problem—YOU.”

I’ve always been taught that a closed mouth doesn’t get fed. But I find it troubling how women are still afraid to be forward when it comes to men. Are women afraid to be forward? It is 2009 right? Aren’t we off that? As much as I want to say yes,” I know that I cannot. So many females complain about the lack of men out here, but whenever I ask a woman if she is willing to make the first move her reply is no. What is that really about? We’re calling ourselves independent, putting our independence out there, yet we’re afraid to put ourselves out there to get what we want? Not quite sure if I understand. It’s no secret that men love power and control, but every once in a while they like it when a woman takes charge. So ladies where are our balls? Truth be told, Mr. Good Enough (since I don’t believe in Mr. Perfect), could be in your life right now waiting for you to say you’re interested. And what are you doing? Waiting on him to say it to you first!

As progressive as we like to think ourselves, why is it so hard for us to go after what we want? Oh, let me get this straight, we’ve made strides everywhere else but not in so called “gender roles”. Please. We criticize men for not having the courage to step to us, but we aren’t stepping to them either. Aren’t we on a relatively equal playing field now? Let’s do better ladies! Now don’t get me wrong, I like to be chased and courted like the next woman but I have no problem going after the man/men I want. And neither should you! Men are terribly frightened by rejection. Yes, terribly frightened, I said. I know it sounds a bit ludicrous, but trust me it’s true. No matter how bad he wants to speak, chances are he won’t. You have to acknowledge a man with some form of interest; this way he may feel encouraged to approach you. This is an example of tricking the trick (but that’s a future piece). And yes you can call him a coward, but if that’s the case what do you call yourself? And complaining about all the things he didn’t do isn’t going to warm the right side of your bed at night. Let’s put that pride to the side and stop waiting on him to make things happen for you.

You would think with all the self help books, relationship columns and “expert” dating advice, we women would know more about ourselves and men. But it appears the more we learn, the further we divert from the truth. Case in point, the Steve Harvey penned book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. Do you honestly believe you have to think like a man to get a man? And furthermore, this is coming from a comedian whose career and hairline is as unstable as a bridge in an earthquake. I’ve even heard stories of women taking a highlighter to this book. WTF! Are you kidding me? What’s next? A nun giving Kama Sutra techniques? This is who you want to listen to? No disrespect to Steve Harvey (or his hairline), but I would rather see him do stand up if even that.

Now I do think women need to learn how to make decisions logically and less emotionally. And in my humble opinion, that is the premise behind “thinking like a man”. It’s a commonly held belief that men are more logical than emotional. Therefore, when it comes to the decision-making process, men are able to make up their minds with ease, or at least that’s the impression we’re lead to believe while we women struggle with our hearts. Granted, there is a time and a place to use logic and the same goes for emotions. But like anything, it’s all about balance.


The first rule is to lose the idea that you have to think like a man to get a man. You’re a woman and women should think like women. We have so many things going for us already: we’re intelligent, we’re interesting, we have breasts, we have vaginas, and did I mention we have breasts? You’re already a step ahead if you were able to put a check beside the aforementioned. Next rule, lose the desperation. Instead of putting all your energy into finding love, focus on the love around you. Cultivate the existing friendships you currently have. The road to a successful relationship is a successful friendship. Learn how to be a good friend first. I think it’s impossible to be a good mate without learning how to be a good friend first. And this should go without saying, but develop a great friendship with you. Start with taking yourself out to the movies, alone. I know this may sound a little foreign to some but trust me it goes a long way. Learn what makes you happy. Chances are the more you know about yourself, the better your likelihood of finding a man with similar interest or one who can at least appreciate yours. On top of that you will learn about yourself as a person. There isn’t a more rewarding relationship than the one you can have with yourself. It gets you used to the idea of being able to do things alone without being lonely. Because there is a distinction! Alone is a state of being. Lonely is a state of mind. And you HAVE to enjoy spending time with you because if you don’t why would someone else?!?!

Women it’s time to take responsibility for our actions! To the plate ladies we go. Let’s stop placing blame on everything but US! There are men out here for all of us. It’s just up to us to actually make a few adjustments and get them!!