Joe Budden Disputes Tahiry Saying That He Beat Her, Says He Caught Her Cheating

Joe Budden states a few items that I find valuable for discussion, whether one agrees with him or not:

1- is “mushing” a woman okay? under what circumstances? He says he caught her cheating.

He says, “I mushed the shit out of her ass.” “…and I think she was asking to get mushed.”

2- he states that cheating can be good, because once a person does it and feels remorseful they may be driven to remain monogamous after that.

3- how do we forgive people as a society? If he really did beat her…should we even forgive him? Chris Brown? Is it our business?

Personally, as Tahiry is a friend of mine, I believe her side of the story…but share your thoughts on these points if you feel so inclined.

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Oh It’s Like That? The Art of Cutting People Off & Feelin’ A Way About It by @Rahim_VladTV

“Lost a couple friends, this whole shit got weird.” - Jay-Z, Do You Wanna Ride,  Kingdom Come

So let’s get right into it.

I won’t slander this female whatsoever because, that’s not what this is about. This isn’t a diss song, it’s a real song.

Also, she’s a very amazing person, pretty inside and out, and we’re ultimately on the Same Team.

But I feel some kind of way.

So today right, I get a phone call from an old but new friend. An old friend because I have known her for a while, but new because I have literally only seen her once or twice. (Friend #1)

That conversation went great, and we ended up building, but the person was calling in reference to ANOTHER friend, who I have known even longer, and had conversation upon conversation with, and even extensively engaged in business with in the past.

So friend 1 asks about friend 2 (on a business level).

I say “oh yeah sure I know her, she’s great and I would connect you two, but we just don’t speak as much.“

Then I decided that because I love to build bridges for people so that they can network, I’ma link this.

Ayit, bet.

I’m like, let me hit up friend #2 so I can co-sign friend #1….

I’m already on facebook, so let me just send friend#2 a quick message and see what she thinks.

So I try to type F#2′s name in the search bar, and NOTHING COMES UP.

wait...

Ayit bet, so now eyebrows raised, I go and type in their name fully and I get this:

got 'em?

So the first thing I think to myself is, THAT SON OF A ……. what the hell?

Note: Removing someone on facebook is like damn. Twitter, yeah you unfollow someone because maybe you don’t want to be exposed to their tweets all day…but deleting someone who you are friends with in real life from your facebook page is like throwing a bone into quicksand and sending your dog to go get it. You’re really not interested in seeing them in any way shape or form again.

So then, I go on an analytic rampage, trying to come up with all the reasons why friend #2 would do that, I don’t remember ever having beef with them or any situation where we wouldn’t at least be cordial. And I couldn’t come up with any. In my mind, I begin to try and come up for reasons why I shouldn’t like the person. That’s pretty wack, I know but I felt as if them not liking me would justify my childish thoughts anyway. Also, I can think whatever I want, so thanks.

“(S)he who does not feel me is not real to me therefore they don’t even exist so poof, vamoose son of a b….”

Yeah I look to rap verses sometimes to put things in perspective. You’d do it too if you were me.

So I’m starting to get all crazy, trying to come up with beef, put pieces together, and I even get angry at myself for still co-signing her even after we ceased working together, all that.

So here’s the kicker: I go one last time and type in her name…scroll down the page, and BAM.

She has two accounts.

We were connected on her primary account the whole time.

Get it?

There’s a moral to this story.

I felt all betrayed and upset those whole 15 minutes, FOR NO REASON.

I actually found this out while I was throwing darts at a picture of her writing this blog…at first I didn’t know what direction I was going with it but here I am.

Hopefully I could help “learn us” a little something about our friends, old and new.

ASSumptions are still alive, they just be concealing it.

Premature judgement is like premature ejaculation… too much, too soon.

Catch my drift?

Now forward this to someone who you haven’t spoken to in a while, and see if you can hash out some foolishness, that you know was really YOUR FAULT not that serious.

Comments? Want to just make laugh at me for being wrong? Go for it below.

Friend #2 will probably read this…my bad!

Hey at least I didn’t badmouth you to anyone else still, even when I was “mad.” Let’s hug it out one day.

*Drops mic*

Rahim The Dream (new handle –i’ll explain later, but for now let me get back to this paper) Wright.

Beautiful Inside And Out: A Poem By @Celebkitty

A Poem By Kitty.

Pilot Episode: On The Couch hosted by @Rahim_VladTV “Men Lie, Women Lie”

Here is the pilot episode of “On The Couch” hosted by myself. Leave comments and let us know what you think.

On The Couch

Moving Forward by @damnkam feat. Words from Katt Williams

moving right along

posted by DamnKam

 

Katt Williams said it years ago and we all laughed “if you over 25 still talking about how men ain’t shit, look at the common denominator in this here problem—YOU.”

I’ve always been taught that a closed mouth doesn’t get fed. But I find it troubling how women are still afraid to be forward when it comes to men. Are women afraid to be forward? It is 2009 right? Aren’t we off that? As much as I want to say “yes,” I know that I cannot. So many females complain about the lack of men out here, but whenever I ask a woman if she is willing to make the first move her reply is “no.” What is that really about? We’re calling ourselves independent, putting our independence out there, yet we’re afraid to put ourselves out there to get what we want? Not quite sure if I understand. It’s no secret that men love power and control, but every once in a while they like it when a woman takes charge. So ladies where are our balls? Truth be told, Mr. Good Enough (since I don’t believe in Mr. Perfect), could be in your life right now waiting for you to say you’re interested. And what are you doing? Waiting on him to say it to you first!

As progressive as we like to think ourselves, why is it so hard for us to go after what we want? Oh, let me get this straight, we’ve made strides everywhere else but not in so called “gender roles”. Please. We criticize men for not having the courage to step to us, but we aren’t stepping to them either. Aren’t we on a relatively equal playing field now? Let’s do better ladies! Now don’t get me wrong, I like to be chased and courted like the next woman but I have no problem going after the man/men I want. And neither should you! Men are terribly frightened by rejection. Yes, terribly frightened, I said. I know it sounds a bit ludicrous, but trust me it’s true. No matter how bad he wants to speak, chances are he won’t. You have to acknowledge a man with some form of interest; this way he may feel encouraged to approach you. This is an example of tricking the trick (but that’s a future piece). And yes you can call him a coward, but if that’s the case what do you call yourself? And complaining about all the things he didn’t do isn’t going to warm the right side of your bed at night. Let’s put that pride to the side and stop waiting on him to make things happen for you.

You would think with all the self help books, relationship columns and “expert” dating advice, we women would know more about ourselves and men. But it appears the more we learn, the further we divert from the truth. Case in point, the Steve Harvey penned book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. Do you honestly believe you have to think like a man to get a man? And furthermore, this is coming from a comedian whose career and hairline is as unstable as a bridge in an earthquake. I’ve even heard stories of women taking a highlighter to this book. WTF! Are you kidding me? What’s next? A nun giving Kama Sutra techniques? This is who you want to listen to? No disrespect to Steve Harvey (or his hairline), but I would rather see him do stand up if even that.

Now I do think women need to learn how to make decisions logically and less emotionally. And in my humble opinion, that is the premise behind “thinking like a man”. It’s a commonly held belief that men are more logical than emotional. Therefore, when it comes to the decision-making process, men are able to make up their minds with ease, or at least that’s the impression we’re lead to believe while we women struggle with our hearts. Granted, there is a time and a place to use logic and the same goes for emotions. But like anything, it’s all about balance.

MESSAGE

The first rule is to lose the idea that you have to think like a man to get a man. You’re a woman and women should think like women. We have so many things going for us already: we’re intelligent, we’re interesting, we have breasts, we have vaginas, and did I mention we have breasts? You’re already a step ahead if you were able to put a check beside the aforementioned. Next rule, lose the desperation. Instead of putting all your energy into finding love, focus on the love around you. Cultivate the existing friendships you currently have. The road to a successful relationship is a successful friendship. Learn how to be a good friend first. I think it’s impossible to be a good mate without learning how to be a good friend first. And this should go without saying, but develop a great friendship with you. Start with taking yourself out to the movies, alone. I know this may sound a little foreign to some but trust me it goes a long way. Learn what makes you happy. Chances are the more you know about yourself, the better your likelihood of finding a man with similar interest or one who can at least appreciate yours. On top of that you will learn about yourself as a person. There isn’t a more rewarding relationship than the one you can have with yourself. It gets you used to the idea of being able to do things alone without being lonely. Because there is a distinction! Alone is a state of being. Lonely is a state of mind. And you HAVE to enjoy spending time with you because if you don’t why would someone else?!?!

Women it’s time to take responsibility for our actions! To the plate ladies we go. Let’s stop placing blame on everything but US! There are men out here for all of us. It’s just up to us to actually make a few adjustments and get them!!

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Ladies: What’s your Indicator that he might be Packing?? [Female Guest Blogger]

do you live in smallville?

[this post is property of Nicole Spence | Nicolespence.me]

Lmao! Lmao! Ok don’t ask me why this is on my mind so early in the morning but it is.
My girls and I are always talking about size. Yes because to us more honestly me, size does matter. But I just think it’s unfair the way some of these dudes can set you up for a disappointing discovery!
I normally stay with a certain body frame, because more than likely he’ll have some down there that I will likey! Lol. For me its all about Tall and Lean, you know a nice athletic build. I’m figuring the short rounder men, are going to have exactly that. Short and stubby! Am I bugging??

An older friend of mine tells me its all in the way he walks, she actually tries to spot the gap between his legs, she says its like there a big bulge forcing their legs apart, u know he’s the guy who sits real wide. And she does have a pretty good track record of” Big Daddy’s” in her life. Hmmm Interesting..

Another friends said it’s all about the Feet! I’m a bit shaky on that theory, because all though she had a size 14 stunner, there’s another girl who had size 12dud-.

My cousin was like ” oh, please I give up, every time I think I got one he turns out to be small! But normally if he’s 6’1 or taller he’s usually decent down there!” You don’t say?

I just think its unfair that men have a pretty good gauge what a woman’s body would be like naked.. And for us ladies we just never know, why do we have to be on that Forest Gump box of chocolates ??

Cut the Shit! Fellas WTH, what should I be looking for? What are the signs, when it’s crowded down there?!

Ladies share your indicators and success stories using that method with me will ya?!! Prevent any more women from having paedophile moments!

P.S.A.- If you’re not packing any heat, I think you should let your lady know ahead of time, instead of crying Wolf! If she suffered from Vaginal dryness wouldn’t you want to know early? Well it’s the same Shit!

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“Don’t Trust A Ho!” [Guest Blogger][via Radio The Rahim]

Don't Trust A Ho.

[by Guest Blogger - E For Short]

*Editor’s Comments – Right on, nig!

Be cordial, be polite, but don’t trust a ho. Don’t judge a ho either. If you’re a ho be a good ho, but I don’t trust you. Let’s be clear a ho can be a man or a woman, some may argue more men than women (I wouldn’t but let’s save that for another day). Men should never trust a ho based on their sexual preference, i.e. if you like dudes and the one you like is a ho, don’t put your faith in him. Women can’t trust ho’s no matter the circumstance.

Sorry ladies, but its true. If you’re friend is a ho, LOOKOUT. She is trying to get with your man/woman not now, but right now as you’re reading this. ‘She’s been my friend for years now and despite her lifestyle she is a good person.’ No one said anything about her being bad or good. I said trusting that ho. She has slept with at least half of your boyfriends either while you were with them or as soon as you broke up with them. And by ‘as soon’ I mean you called her crying me and such& such just broke up and while you were still pouring your heart out over the phone she was hopping in the car on the way to his house. She didn’t even change her clothes or check to see if he was home. She just going over there to circle the block and see is he is nearby to get it in. She has definitely flirted with 100% of the men you are vaguely interested in and made a pass at most of them. Am I saying you can’t be friends with a ho? Well, if you don’t mind not trusting your friends around people you like then that’s not what I’m saying. The friend-ho is bad the man-ho is no different.

You definitely can’t change a man-ho into a house-husband. It’s not happening. If he gets the chance, which he will, a man-whore will snatch up some snatch before you can blink twice. Oh, he’s changed you say. He’s not as immature as he used to be and he loves you. Word? Just because a ho loves you doesn’t mean that he is going to stop tricking. A ho is a ho, is a ho. Church can I get an amen? AMEN!
There are cheating ass men, men that have cheated, and ho’s (this is by no means an exhaustive list of all types of men). 3 different things. Men that have cheated may have done it once or twice, had a bad relationship, going through a Jekyll & Hyde phase, or something like that. Cheating ass men…cheat, that’s what they do. They actually get into a relationship knowing damn well they’re going to cheat. I think they actually may even start a monogamous relationship just so they can cheat. A ho has no business in a relationship and knows that and was perfectly fine ho-ing until you came around and decided ho-ship shall no longer be his occupation. C’mon now, you met him through a friend he that you knew he was having sex with in a club that you saw him leave with another girl. Not to mention all the rumors and stories you heard about him through pretty much everyone. What ‘usually’ distinguishes a man-whore from a man dating is mo’s (man+ho =mo) whole operative is based on deception.
Their like the James bonds of potential STDs. That’s right I said it- STDs. Based on no surveyical (you like that word, I know) information, 90% of mo’s have, are, or will be burning. It’s an unproven fact; ask your male-ho-friend. If he hesitates then he is about to lie (see mo’s deceive) and yes he had one. If he doesn’t hesitate then he’s lying and currently has one or will be burning by the end of this blog post. This isn’t a men bashing article, this is a don’t trust that ho *EPA*warning and there are plenty of women ho’s.
Fellas don’t, that’s all I have to say…just don’t. Don’t trust a ho as far as you can throw her. And if she’s some small itty bitty ho and you’re a big brolic dude, then don’t use that metaphor use something else that signals distrust. ‘Yo man, I know she piped the whole team, my cousin, and gimp-leg Larry from down the block but things is different now.’ What’s different? Larry’s leg is still gimpy and she’s still a ho. ‘She’s been through a lot, nah mean; her uncle did bad things to her when she was younger and her ex-boyfriend did this or that.’ I’m really sorry to hear that and those are terrible things, but ummm I’m not really talking about the causes of ho-ship or what pushed said ho into ho-dom. It’s clear at this moment she is a ho and a ho is going to do a ho’s work, i.e. Ho-ing. Meaning she got a titty in someone’s face at this very moment. Turn around, QUICK! She just flashed your dad and you didn’t even notice it. Am I saying ho’s don’t deserve love? If you don’t mind either a) putting GPS on her, watching her every move like a crazed jealous lover, which I might add Michael Strahan did but like any good she-ho, she is great at the art of deception so was still able to love de next man’s buddy or B) throw trust to the wind, not care she’s doing everybody and you’re going to love her for who she is…riiight. Well, if either of those seems like decent choices then no I’m not saying ho’s don’t deserve love. What I am saying is: don’t trust a ho.

Miss Jay, J.D. Tells Us Why She Will No Longer Date Black Men! [Guest Blogger]

***This is Part 1, of a two part series. I will post my commentary to this tomorrow.*** [Dr. Jay of Thebookofjackson.blogspot.com]

Recently, I was chatting it up with a friend. I’m close enough to this young lady that she can feel free to say anything and I won’t get angry or judge. So imagine that while i’m visiting a blog that I actually frequent because I think it’s an excellently written blog, idatewhite.com, and she sends me this message: “I have decided to stop dating black men, and let me disclaim this entire conversation by saying I know some amazing black men who have a number of virtues that any woman would be lucky to have. Clearly they are not free of flaw but neither is anyone. They are still catches.”

Of course, I didn’t think anything was wrong with that. But I was still interested to know why and below are some of the highlights of the conversation:

First, my best friend [it’s a male] sent me an article on what single women can learn from Michelle Obama the article’s argument was that many black women wouldn’t date the community organizing earning 30K or something; and excuse me, I’m about to say something that some people cannot stand because I’m about to get very nitpicky and classist. Please forgive me in advance. Barack graduated from Columbia and then went to Harvard law. Michelle met him AT HER LAW FIRM. So it is different if he’s highly educated, able to hold his own with certain people in conversation, etc and chose to earn 30K.

Now a point on Michelle, a top Princeton grad who went to Harvard law as well, she knew her earning potential. I’d argue that a lot of girls who went to the top schools aren’t necessarily looking for the money. The money is already under control, they can earn it. They want someone with the credentials. That’s another issue, maybe thats a problem, but that’s not at issue right now. Yes, a community organizer who doesn’t make that much comparatively but that was by choice which is important he’s not making that much bc he cannot make more, he’s making that much bc this is a career choice he’s passionate about.

[A former male classmate], God bless his soul too but not as much, sent me something someone wrote on black women needing to stay fit and they cannot be surprised when men aren’t interested if they gain weight or already are fat. I am naturally thin, very thin, I will probably always be thin, BUT I understand that weight is an issue thats a little more complicated than eat right and work out sometimes, and eat right and work out in itself can be complicated. If you control for socioeconomic status, black men are less healthy than black women, its just true. But it doesn’t seem so, why? Their dating pool.

Want to read more? Continued here.

Keep Ya Bidness Out The Tweets: Top 5 Ways To Get Caught On Twitter

“It’s Twitney, Bitch!” – Anonymous

Twitter! Home of just about everybody right now…right? This damn new “thing” adds an unnecessary level of f*ckery to our everyday lives, whether public or private. With quick and easy first hand access to so many people, one would think that they have hit the gold mine with regards to pimpin.

I beg to differ, and I have 5 million reasons why:

1. Everything you say is “googlable.” Yes, I don’t give a f*ck about bing.com. At least not yet…Google is still the search engine of champions. If people want to know something about anything, they “google” it. Some of you have screennames that are extremely uncreative (you used your real name).Game over for you if you try to get cute and say some slick sh*t, and it ends up popping up as the first line in your girlfriends random google search. Got ‘em.

*note that even if your partner doesn’t have twitter, this is how you can still “get got.”

2. Sending messages that should be DM’s. Oh sh*t! Some of us send mad reckless tweets to more than one female at a time! Chicks y’all be wyling alot too. Don’t get reported to @hoecop, seriously. You know that “@replies” are fed to everyone, right? …and then there’s the literal f*ckups , like being on ubertwitter and squealing “oh sh*t” after publicly asking @yourconcubine for the time to meet at the hotel so you can get it on. I know, you thought you were sending a DM. Your bad.

*Twitterberry is good for doing people dirty with this one.

3. Your pleasures mix with your dirty business – Are you really going to go on your shorty’s page every single day to check to see who she’s f*cking following? Do you have that kind of time? I don’t. Chances are, due to all the “retweeting,” group “@replies,” and “#followfridays, the one your lovin may end up followin; the one you be humpin. One may say something really witty, and they may end up adding each other, and even becoming way cooler with each other than you’d ever like them to be. I’m sure you can figure out the endless possibilities for FML which can arise thereafter.

4. Shorty Does An “@name” search Oh yes, your not gonna like this one, pimp. Hey you know how you can do a search for whatever you want in twitter? Haha, well, your shorty can easily type your twittername “@twitterpimp” in the twitter search box, and see all the shit that OTHER PEOPLE were writing to you! Remember that time you told her you were going to sleep at 9pm? Lol. Meanwhile you were out somewhere “getting it in,” while your company was there tweeting about it to you. Some people do that. Anyway, you can’t delete those.

5. Fake Twitter Accounts – This is the grandmother of all f*ckery. Someeone going out of their way to create a twitter account to follow you and all the people that you talk to. Beyond stalker, in a land beyond wrong or right? However, I have seen sh*t like this done before.

Moral of the post: Don’t lie, or don’t tweet.

Honorable Mentions: Predictable passwords, leaving your computer on, tweeting about how you cheated

Did I miss anything? I think I covered from the mini slip ups to the flat out sabotage.

Let me know what I missed! We welcome your comments below.

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