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The Blacker The Berry The Sweeter The Juice: Wait I Don't Even Like Berries
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I probably wouldn’t want to date him anyway. My nappy hair and I have preferences as well, but his reasoning didn’t sit too well with me.
The good part is that I will probably never meet this ignorant fool.
I wonder if his mother ties her hair down at night.
Everyone is entitled to like what he/she likes, but I felt like he was a bit offensive and insensitive.
I could go on and on…
Lol. I don’t even like berrys
Reading such ignorant banter against women who look like your mother is disgusting. Is that the representation that you had in your home growing up? Is that all you think of us? So sad… To each his own, however, you contradict yourself many times in this article. You grew up in diversity and are multifaceted so we should have figured you would cross over? What exactly are you crossing over too? And if you are indeed so diversified then you should be able to appreciate all backgrounds and not be exclusive of one or the other. It is fine that you choose to only date white women because the educated black women I know, wouldn’t bother with you anyway. As far as you footnote on why you capitalized black not white, I will only say learn YOUR history. Then you will understand why BLACK people who cannot trace their roots back to a specific nationality or group of people where displaced by the hands of those you clearly glorify. Finally, your mother is probably more sad than anything for the discriminatory attitude a child she birthed has acquired. I pray my future sons will love themselves more than you clearly do. If you really want to have a successful relationship, you should try dealing with the inner insecurities that you obviously have.
please keep in mind this article was written by a GUEST BLOGGER!!!
Dude, do what you want. Who cares who you date?
I’m sure no Black woman is losing sleep at the fact that she doesn’t have you to court her.
Who you date is your choice and yours alone…and you have the right to those decisions without the judgment of others.
But seriously…you need to deal with your animosity and frustration. Seriously.
Because Black women, as a people, have done nothing to you. And your anger is profound…and unhealthy. And it’s not just about someone wearing a hair scarf or asking you to take them out when you were broke. Seriously.
More interesting to me, a Black woman, is the pathological mindset that you have just put on display for everyone to see… You might wanna handle that, my friend.
Peace
Ok, I have not even read the whole blog yet. But guy you are contradicting your self. You mentioned you don’t like being compared to the negative black men. Well sir, you are comparing ALL black women to negative black women you’ve encountered.
Not all BLACK WOMEN are as the ones you’ve described. Yes I agree women should not compare all black men to the negative brothers they’ve encountered, but it does you no justice to do the same.
I am totally for dating outside of the race, for I will do it too. Whomever God brings my way. But do not stereotype us black women as ungrateful and mad because you decline going out for lack of funds.
Women like myself would say “oh its ok honey I can pay for us” OR that’s perfectly fine if we stay in the house watch tv and do whatever.
In turn, I’m sure you’re a very intelligent, intellectual man and college educated as you’ve stated. You should know to thoroughly research before stating your proposals as though they are certain.
This is all I have to say, now I will continue reading on.
To the guest blogger, not the person who posted the blog….
Yes I wrap my hair every night before bed. It is a way I keep my hair straight and beautiful as black men, white men spanish men all men adore. So do not complain about black women and their nappy hair b/c they’re trying to please men like you . Men who are dissatisfied that women wrap their hair to keep it tamed.
I actually appreciated what you had to say in your rant. Because although black women will deny being like this. As a general population in can be held valid. I personally grasp what your saying. I’m a African American woman that grew up most of my life in predominantly White neighbor. Then went to a predominantly White college and my major was one that many Black didn’t venture into. (Corporate Finance was a major African American students ran to on my campus.) But I do know where I come from and where I am going. I can say that its understandable that you want to be with someone that will relate to your experiences. And now your preferences are geared towards women that you believe can provide you that support system you need. And so far in your life you haven’t found it with a Black woman. But as the intellect you are, I hope you know not all Black women as you describe. I think you do understand that and you love your Black women. Its just that you don’t feel the love from then and you go elsewhere. There is nothing wrong with that at all. But just as a note, the Black woman that would be in your corner is just as selective as you are. She’s a bite harder to find. Nonetheless, I enjoyed you view. And I just want to say that; I hope God blesses you in the union you have with any woman. No matter what the color of her skin is or the texture of her hair.
~God is Love~
Tisk..Tisk. I’m am lost for words…
Guest Blogger, I am quite ashamed that you even took the time to write the garbge that you wrote. Not all Black women are the way that you discribed. But at least one good thing will come out of this…there won’t be any poor Black women that will have to put up with your crap.
It’s a sad day when Black men like you have to make themselves feel better by putting down their Black women.
I just married the man of my dreams and he’s not Black and when I showed him your entry, he shook his head and laughed….” what a fool. He says he’s well educated, but he talks like he dropped out of school in the 2nd grade”.
I pray that if you have children, they won’t turn out to be so closed minded like you.
Call me Mister “I’m Not An American”, but isn’t the race we belong to called Homo Sapiens Sapiens?
I’ve never understood this whole Black White Thing.
Mind you, I live in China these days, and let me tell you, if you think you have race issues (and you do, America), then you need to see how bad it is here…
I’m a black woman who feels just like you do towards black men. I think this is all just a matter of class. I do believe that there are some Black men I could be compatible with but my real question is how come we aren’t finding each other? I can appreciate what hes said because I’m a black woman and I have some of my own gripes with the majority of black women. I appreciate you expressing yourself candidly because this is what plenty of men are feeling but just not saying. I could even see myself being friends with someone like you. But seriously, what is happening to black people? What is to become of us if the best and brightest continue to miss out on eachother? I don’t knock interracial dating because I do it myself but I often think about what it would be like to be in a relationship with a black man who was like me…
Oh well that’s my rant.
I have bad news for you. On Christmas morning, you will still be black. LOL
Radiotherahim, thank you for putting up with the feedback on your guest blogger’s entry. Apparently, many of us feel the need to share. Please bear with me.
Guest blogger: Your circumstances never dictate your life path, your decisions do. You haven’t been able to comprehend your own insecurities enough to function in spite of them. You are not unique in your experiences. I also received a bachelor’s degree in an uncommon field for a black woman (Bilingual Education) as well as received my Master’s in Linguistics. I love meeting new people, and do not consider it an esteemable quality in myself to judge an entire race/culture/group based on the behaviors and knee-jerk responses of a few.
Your decision to publicize your invalid conclusions about a group who desire support and affection just as much as you do lets me know you got some more livin’ to do, dear heart.
You may have been burned, humiliated, and harassed by fickle women, but your conceit may have also kept you from seeing the big picture. Do you want to see change? Succinctly clue them in on what they did wrong. Do you have any love in your heart for your fellow man? If not, being a sentient, educated, sophisticated, sane individual does you absolutely no good. What use is being multi-faceted if you don’t know how to exploit it? If you want to inspire change, and be of some use, speak up. Be the antithesis of the worst, and tell the next person who abuses your pride how they can improve on their behavior in order to be a better individual. However, if you don’t want to live free of the resentment you harbor, ignore your common sense and remain inhibited. But, I reiterate, it all comes down to your decision. You are loved, no matter who you reject. Peace.
Hilarious, but, let me say, your limited point of view. If you’re a black man who has noticed that he doesn’t want to be limited or judged by his color or to have it dictate his relationships. There are many black women who feel the same way.
You see, there are normal black women out there. By normal I mean not entitled, non-combative, balanced women, who, like you, haven’t put themselves up as sacrificial lambs for the race. How do I know this? I am one.
By the way, if you’ve not noticed, no matter who we date or reproduce with we have black children. From that point of view I’m not at all betraying my race when I date out of it.
However, I’m not interested in racial politics in my relationship. You show me from posting this that even with this desire to not be defined by your race by your exclusion of black women, you are defined by it. I, too, am not interested in someone telling me what music I ought to like or what opinions I must think. I’m not interested in fulfilling a stereotype. However, I realize that a man’s race doesn’t dictate how he’ll view those issues. His perspective will. Therefore, even though I’ve met irritating black men who are pretentious, I know there are great black men out there too. I’ll date whoever I click with.
Funny you blast black women for being combative but post this as if this isn’t combative and an insult to black women as a group. We’re all sophisticated to know we’re not a monolith. Your choice to write this makes it seem that it only applies to you.
What’s interesting is I don’t need to blast my dating preferences all over the net. Yes, I’ve got a blog too. I would suggest that with such delicate subjects you try something new. That would be tact.
Take care.
I can totally relate to what the auther is saying. In this country, we are, by “law” equal, but we, ofcourse, come in different forms, styles, cultures, and so on. It would be absolutely silly to believe that every man and woman are supposed to be attracted to any and every culture and race out there when in fact, it doesnt happen that way. Whether the reason is biological, or based on culture or experiences, no one can decide for us who we find attractice, and who we decide to love. Saying that, I am a white male, and I dont find myself attracted to women of black culture. Notice I said black culture, and not black women. There is a difference. I respect all women of all forms, as human beings, on this very small world. But, I can not physically, nor mentally pretend or try to condition myself to like someone, or something that deep inside I do not. Do I feel guilty? Not, one, bit. We are a product of nature, we underneath still have animalistic earges that can not be corrected, fixed, or swayed by some beaurocrat (sp?) internet bogger, radical, the “politcially correct” or, our friends and familys. So, to wrap things up, your opinion, is yours, and you have the option of being with whome you want to be with. More power to you. I am a man of science, and reason, and I believe that science explains our choices, and “logic” for making such decisions about relationships, and that there must be a legitimate, if not understandable reason behind it. I am not wise enough, nor smart enough to know why, but I am not going to fight my desire, nor put down yours
I can relate to you. I’m a biracial guy and I’ve never dated a black woman. Out of all the groups of women, they seem the most alien, the most dysfunctional and anti-social.
I agree with most of the article, except the hair part. I esthetics really doesn’t matter to me much, I’m bigger on personality. I’ve dated all types of sisters. From dime pieces to buckets, fat to skinny, sophisticated socialites to straight reebok wearing hood rats, who couldn’t care less of the difference between a desert and a salad fork. I’ve recently dated a Caucasian woman… And WOW a light clicked. In our realtionship she is more a partner, no way near a dependent. She actually paid for our meal on the 1st date. Now we rotate either I’ll pay for dinner and she’ll get the movie… Sometimes I have to insist on paying. She know more about ol’ skool rap that I do. Not because she was trying to land a black man. That’s just taste in music. Her second favorite genre is country. I’m tollerant…. But my main point is she knows how to treat and keep her man. And now from my increased interractions with people of Caucasian decent. I’ve discovered that the majority of Caucasian women share much of the same tastes and values as she does. I’m sorry my African American sisters, but some of you leave us no choice but to cross over.
Sorry for any misspellings and gramatical errors… It was a quick post from my phone… But u get what I’m trying to convey right?…. Deuces Chris
You contradicted your self black women you said generalize black men and blame them for stuff other black men did and you generalize all for the few in your life …you are a stereotype yourself really. No offense
I am an educated black woman that have dated outside of my race most of my life. However,now that I am getting older and is thinking about marriage and my future….I yearn to marry a black man. I am 26 and just feel for me that it wouldn’t be 100% if my husband isn’t black. I am not speaking for everybody. I do believe that love is blind and everyone have the right to love whoever they decide to love…..with that being said I must say that I’m from California and here you see more black men dating outside their race then a black couple and that disturbs me. We are the only race that does this to this extreme extent.That says something about us as a race. That we have a lot of self hatred going on in the black communities.I find this to be very sad, heart breaking even.Just like its hard to find a good woman. Its just as hard to find a good black man. So for the author, go ahead and date your white woman if that’s what pleases you….just know that white woman ages quick and spanish woman get fat fast.Lol…it also sounds like black woman weren’t giving you any love in the first place…which means your ugly! Take care, uncle tom!LoL
I LOVE that you wrote this. I am a 31 year old black male and I DO NOT DATE BLACK WOMEN> The expectations are too high…..
What these ignorant sisters dont understand is NOBODY OWES you ANYTHING!!!!
SADLY ENOUGH IT DOESN’T MAKE FOR “GOOD ANYTHING” THAT THE IGNORANT MEN/WOMEN ON HERE ATTEMPT TO JUSTIFY THEIR INSECURITIES BY PUTTING ANOTHER INDIVIDUAL DOWN. WE STILL LOVE YOU REGARDLESS. NO WE DON’T HAVE TO INTERACT WITH YOU. FOR THE INDIVIDUAL SHANE, WHO HAS NEVER DATED A BLACK WOMAN AND YET YOU JUDGE THEM SO HARSHLY, WHY? WHATEVER WORKS FOR YOU, NOTE, DYSFUNCTION, BEING ALIEN, AND ANTI SOCIAL WOULD APPLY TO ALL NATIONALITIES, KEEP LIVING.BUT ALL THE EDUCATION IN THE WORLD WILL NOT ALTER THE INNER HATRED YOU HAVE FOR SELF. EVEN THE “ACCEPTABLE EYE CANDY” ON YOUR ARM WILL NOT ALTER SELF LOATHING. IT MUST COME FROM WITHIN. SINCE WE ALL HAVE NOT DATED EVERY BLACK, AFRICAN AMERICAN OR ‘COLORED’ WOMAN/MAN ON HERE HOW CAN WE MAKE SUCH POINTS AND CONSIDER THEM VALID. WESTLEY SNIPES ONCE MADE THE SAME STATMENT, TO ALL I SAY, TO EACH THEIR OWN, BUT YOUR ISSUES ARE NOT BECAUSE OF A FEW WOMEN, YOU WERE BROKEN BEFORE THE AFFAIR BEGAN AND YOU MUST HEAL THAT WHICH NEEDS REPAIRING. NOW I UNDERSTAND THE TERM, IF YOU SAY IT ENOUGH, THEN YOU CAN BE CONVINCED. IF THAT PERSON YOU HOLD SO DEAR WILL NOT CONFORM TO THIS MODEL OF PERFECTION YOU’VE ENVISIONED, YOU HAVE AN OPTION TO END THE RELATIONSHIP. BUT TO GENERALIZE ON THE ENTIRE RACE IS NOT JUST UNFAIR, IT IS QUITE IGNORANT. EDUCATION AND CULTURE IS GOOD BUT WE MUST NOT FORGET THAT IT MAKES US NO BETTER THAN ANOTHER. THE ‘GUEST BLOGGER AND A FEW OTHERS, HAVE ONLY VALIDATED THE ONE-SIDEDNESS OF MANY LIKE MINDED PEOPLE WHO BELIEVE THAT WHITE IS BETTER AND THE DARKER YOUR YOUR SKIN IS, MAKES YOU LESS THAN WHATEVER. WE ALL BLEED RED BLOOD AND THE SAD TRUTH IS WE ALL HAVE HAD OR WILL HAVE A NEGATIVE RELATIONSHIP AND STEREOTYPING IS WRONG WHETHER YOU ‘LIKE BERRIES OR NOT’!
PEACE
all i have to say is i am an Indian an my husband is black we have 2 kids married 4 6 years. he dated black women before and he said that they are the worst. no way in carrying about them self’s.and they sell funny and has know hair.
Right on brotha!
DO you have facebook? lol you need to create a fan page on there
I have a blog http://www.whitemeat.wordpress.com a site that honors the white woman!
Nina,
Keep in mind that u mentioned that u’re educated but then you go ahead and mess ur self up by showing your ignorance about other races. Don’t believe that everyone that is white ages fast and DON’T believe that all latinas get fat – far from it. U need to stop watching so much T.V. and stop listening to other fools like your ignorante self. It makes you sound TONTA!!!! y mal-educada.
I was reading this and i was like wow this is my boy. lol Of course there are exceptions to the things you listed. I don’t exclude them but i stay away from them. My girl now is mulatto and i’m happy with her
Very blanketed statements. And petty too. What you don’t want black women to do to you, is what you just did to them…I don’t date black guys because I think you are no good…I don’t date you because you are hypocrites…Just as fast as you take up with a white woman, I will definately take a white guy…
I feel bad for the guy and ALL black guys like him. As an African woman, it depresses me how some African Americans have come to hate themselves SO MUCH. This goes to prove that white oppressors have finally won the slavery battle….what more victory than making your “enemy” hate themselves so much and worship YOU and wish they were you. American black men are STILL mentally enslaved to white power (“white beauty”) and slavery was over ages ago. WOW. Good luck black women of America…..you are gonna need it.
Kera, you make a very excellent point. I totally agree with you. I happen to be married to a white man myself and have a half white daughter….but you don’t see me advocating white men over black men, neither did I go deliberately looking for a white mate…..I dated different races before settling down.
I just pity black men like this author.
So, you said you think that it’s “stupid” when a Black woman goes natural?!! If she cuts off the hair that does NOT represent her true self?! You are PITIFUL. You don’t realize that if you’re a full black man, you more than likely share the black woman’s natural hair texture.
But you, do not find her hair to be beautiful? I bet you just LOOOOVE your NAPPY hair, huh?
Can you honestly look in the mirror at yourself and be content? Not only with your physical appearance, but with your hateful attitude?
Self-destructive man.
Funny. He used sterotypes to prove his point…and most of the things he said can be labeled with women of other races. In fact, one study showed that AA women tend to have more Agape love whil White have more Manic. Th epoint to this? Not much other than he’s speaking out from his behind. It seems like he’s ventured into hoodrat terriotory and never left, yet sees himself in a different boat/territory hile failing to realize that he seems to act (by his writing and the way he is holding most if not all AA women to one standard) just like the women he’s condeming.
I’ve met guys like this author before. They spouted the same crap out, but God and baby Jesus forbid a Black/Laitno/Asian/White/Native American women dates out her race with someone of high or normal status (aka- not a hoodrat).
It’s sad really. A cycle of people beating eachother down and for what? The fact that this author considers skintone, hair type, and eye color (= race) as important factors in finding a mate shows that they are shallow and not truly looking for love (not to mention the definign factor in how people act, i.e : “black wome are…” “black women can’t…” but an accessory.
Love is not about race. This should not be an issue. This authorneeds to mature a bit and he’ll see this.
After reading the comments I noticed a few things:
- It’s okay to have a preference, but when your prefernce is defined by race you just need to sit down and shut up… b/c while you’re ragging n so-and-so race you’re coming off as ignorant.
- Isn’t it funny how for people that are over AA women, they take the time to write ou long bitter responses? SOunds like someone isn’t really “over” Black women ut may have had a hard time catching one.
- Bad expriences invovled the circles that people hung around. Move out the circle and you’ll find a new flock of people…
- I keep reading “they expect too much”…butwhat? Most Black women I met wanted the same things as other women ( x: a nice educaed guy who was responsible–basically the guidlines of being an adult). And if you move out from the hoodrat circle or found a nice woman than you’d see that.
- I’ve also heard Black women wth the same complaints. Sudies have been done and tons of interviews too (google it) showing Black women complaining baout the lack of men in colelge or not being able to find one on the same level (education,class wise). They tend to date outside of their race because of it despite actively seeking out Black males (depsite the 80% of AA homes w/o Black males in them).
La Selva, Can you do a spell check when posting?
Mercy, I think it’s stupid that black women cut their hair off to try to look like something they are not. I just cant deal with the fake stuff…..I prefer my vanilla
i think la selve is black. if you are, why would you look this up anyway? WTFUCK DOES NAPPY MEAN?
Anyway, i hate it when the black girls in my school walk SO SLOWELY. it wouldn’t matter if you ask politley to move to move or just shove them out of the way. they’d yell at you anyway. they say they will kick your ass, they wouldn’t do shit what so ever.
i also hate it when you say something and they say “oh go siddown someweah!” Even if you are sitting down!!
It seems like he’s had a preference all along, fine and all…but again, it’s stuff that is “wrong” with black women that “led” him to date Latina and white women…suspect! I don’t date black men much myself, so I would be a hypocrite to have a problem with who someone chooses to date. But it’s the excuses (not reasons) that are used. When you have more excuses about what you don’t like about one as opposed to what you like about what you prefer, it’s a clear sign of someone who is lost and doesn’t want to take the time to attempt to understand why the rarity in what they choose to leave aside isn’t worth pursuing.
Being a very well travelled and well cultured black woman from Canada, I must say that the negative stereotypes “Guest Blogger” spoke about were as offensive as the unsupportive comments that were told to him from black women in the past. Regardless of their race, people come from different social economical backgrounds within the US and throughout the world. Therefore, I suggest Mister “Guest Blogger”, experience worldwide travel and engage with as many people as possible before limiting himself to his box of experiences.
Take for example, I date interracial 80% of the time and I’d never speak poorly about black men. Trust me, I’ve met some weirdo’s but I cannot profile a race of people base on tiny experiences. All of my past suitors had good and perhaps some bad attributes that weren’t a fit for me.
Additionally, I’ve never heard of the phrase, “sweating out hair”. Quite simply, if your hair is sweaty when working out or from doing whatever, you wash it! Anything else is nasty and unacceptable.
Anyhoo darliing, smile and have a great day
JUST DEAL WITH IT….WE AS BLACK MEN ARE FED UP…YOU BLACK WOMEN EXPECT TOO MUCH FROM US. I AM NOT TRYING TO BE DISRESPECTFUL BUT LOOK AT A LOT OF SUCCESSFUL BLACK MEN….We Go with WHITE WOMEN…Why, you black women are CRAZY I AM NOT INTERESTED. I have a white girlfriend right now and I WILL NEVER TURN MY BACK ON HER.
YOUNG FRESH, do u ever look over what you type before you submit it? “I AM NOT TRYING TO BE DISRESPECTFUL…you black women are CRAZY”. Hmmmm that sounds like a contradiction. And if you really didnt care what people thought about your preference you wouldnt need to repeatedly have to restate your opinion. Im not saying you shouldnt have a preference but theres no need to bash another race of women. I also think that its hilarious that the only negative thing you could say about La Selva’s post was that he misspelled a few words.
When I examine blogs like these, I feel awful. Naturally. However, I must believe that african american men must have some legitamate reasons they don’t date us. Maybe we are too loud? Maybe we are too pushy? overjealous? I guess we must take their idea into view.
Because i don’t understand. i went to the site-http://whitemeat.wordpress.com/
and it made me feel sick.
One topic
Treat her like a Goddess
I quote “Most of us here are in agreement that white women are the best of all women, so we must show her (remind her) how we feel. We must never let her have doubts about her superiority, or how she is viewed in our eyes. So every day (not just on special occasions) make time to show a white woman just how special she is.”
And then I think; we may call ourselvelves -black godesses
but our men don’t treat us like godesses. Black men never say how special we are. They don’t give up their seats for us or view us with desire–is something wrong with us?
I’m 16. And right now, its about the time for me to love,date,be in relationships–but if men don’t prefer my hair/skin tone and stats show that white men date 95-96% in their race I feel like giving up on relationships in general. What is the point?
Maybe guys do have legitatmate points about our behavior. But it makes me cry that black guys would talk about how beautiful white women are and never think to say anything good about us. I give up. I have to go now.
Dear CrusaderforTruth,
Is it possible that you are in fact asking the wrong question? Speaking personally, I think a better question would be: “Why do Americans spend so much of their valuable time writhing in angst over the colour of a person’s skin (or their religion, or their views on abortion, et al)?”
In civilised places, these things just don’t assume any great importance. Do the sensible thing and find yourself a civilised man (or woman) who treats you with respect, seeing the person you are inside, regardless of irrelevant details.
So what if a certain percentage of American males prefer X, or another percentage of American females prefer Y? Don’t follow the (dumb) herd; be yourself and make that the best you can – the rest will follow naturally. And if worst comes to worst, you can always choose to live in a place where the social rules and opinions are more enlightened.
My two cents, of course.
And then I think; we may call ourselvelves -black godesses
but our men don’t treat us like godesses. Black men never say how special we are. They don’t give up their seats for us or view us with desire–is something wrong with us?
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all my life i heard that “strong black women” don’t “need a man.” i heard “i can do bad by myself.” so it stands to reason that nobody will open a door for you or help you in any way.
question: how many brothas have held a door open for a black woman and they sail through it and don’t even say thank you. how many sistas think you’re weak or a punk if you’re gentleman-like. how many sistas would pass your educated ass over for either a thug or a white boy. how many sistas start flirting with you only after you get love from white women? how many white women would get with you when you’re broke and stick with you through the struggle. how many sistas only appear when it’s time to get paid.
answer these questions truthfully and you’ll see what the deal is. three cheers for the guest poster!
BLACK WOMEN ARE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL GIRLS IN THE WORLD TO ME LOVE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH COLOR THE BOTTOM LINE IS TREAT OTHERS HOW YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREAT JUST SOME ADVICE TO MY BLACK GIRLS LEARN TO BE LESS CRITICAL & MORE LOVING IT GOES A LONG WAY
ok, first of all, guest blogger , i love the way your ignorance seeps from every word you wrote in that article. this is what i dont undeerstand with most black men, what do they mean by they are “crossing over”? what r u? chromosomes in meiosis I. everyone has the right to date who they choose regardless of race. no one cares who you date, personally im not losing sleep over it. but dont try to give yourself an internal justification by claiming black women are not good enough or whatever. how many true black women have you met? hon, guys like you insult all women in the world. you are telling the white woman that if she didnt pay for your dinner or shut up when you was broke, u wont give a shit about her. men need to start dating women because they have feelings for her not because she will tolerate what another woman wont. ignorant men like this are all the same , they are able to be sexist and racist pigs at the same time by trying to act as if they are complimenting one person and dissing the other. but women, regardless of your race, they are insulting us all, no matter what race you are.
This is so tiring. What would any grown, educated, black man actually write a blog attacking the worth of black women. Really? You know what? You love who you love. People are people. It is the heart of a person and not the color of their skin that should be of importance. I have dated white men, black men, Latin men and have loved and been loved by all different races of men. Excluding an entire group of women based upon their race or even skin hue is not only silly, but it is limiting. Excluding a group of women that look like you and then writing a referendum about how terrible those women are, just makes me embarrassed about the state of black people – period.
All of my black male friends are married to white women and they all have embedded in their wives’ heads that black women are unworthy of their love. That is so disrespectful and, unfortunately, black men are the only race of men that have such little respect for their women and themselves. You think black women are unworthy of your love because you are not comfortable with who you are, where you come from, etc. Without knowing you, I would bet this – you grew up in the hood in DC, was subsequently educated and are using white women to hide the dirt under your finger nails. .
I hope this black man can teach other black men like himself to treat women properly be it black, white, whatever. I’m a black woman who refuse to EVER date a black man again. They are week emotionally and statistics show that they are not family oriented. So to all you black sister out there. Think of your worth and what kind of father you want for your children. When you find a white man who loves you, he adores you. He treats you like a queen. He does not want us – we don’t want him either.
As a man, I give you credit for saying how you feel. Notice all the black women in uproar. SEE, THATS what you don’t want to deal with. I hear ya, and I’m WHITE!
There is sorta a difference between “red bones” and SOME pure black women. They seem to be more militant on all issues of race and always have a negative attitude. I got tired of hearing thier drama which SEEMED to me, to just be insecurity.
“But I’m very adamant about saying, that we are not judged by our inconsistencies, but by our consistencies.”
This is the best line I have ever heard and it is true about all races.
lissen im a dark skinned male who has college degrees and im not a CRIMINAL , LIAR or a FREELOADER just a hard working man trying to be successful. Well this article saddens me because it shows how much the media brings us down as a race and what’s even more disgusting is that blacks are the ones who break down blacks the most. Growing up i used to get teased all the time about being dark skinned and it was funny to them but what they did not relize is that there setting a mind state for others as well as them selfs that lighter is good darker is bad. Humanity is getting lighter period before you used to see many dark males and females in india japan etc but now all those dark genes are being looked down on so the males and females look for lighter mates makeing lighter babies and so on and so on so basic reading this is awful to me because every race has there ups and down whites age younger than most , asians dont really have a ideal body blacks ( african americans ) dont have the ideal hair so is it right to single out one race because of there negatives. look all im saying is that we always been hated we always been under prosicution we should bring up are black women instead of helping bring them down ( ladys do the same for your black men ) if we dont love are selfs no one will. if we keep this up soon being black will be a thing of the past we already are low in numbers and are hated and its only going to get worst the lesser we are so guy who wrote this article everybody deserves the gift of prefrence but you shouldnt really be with anybody because by reading your article it sounds like you dont really have a problem with black women you really have a problem with your self
“”" we should bring up are black women ”’???
NO THANKS.
Just except the fact that there are black men like myself that are ONLY interested in White women..PERIOD END OF STORY
Not all black women have issues…But the majority of the black ones I’ve met are and I am not interested. You can beat me up all you want but the fact is we like what we like.
The following are black folks that are with white women. Why not email them and tell them to not date white women?
Michael Jordan(Left his black ignorant wife for a white woman)
Lenny Kravitz
Tay Diggs
Tony Parker
Tim Duncan..
Cuba Gooding JR
Reggie Bush
Kobe Bryant
Seal
Lamar Odom
Tiger Woods
Montell Williams
Sidney Portier
I have just ended a relationship with a black man (the second black man), I am white and I have to tell you both of them were users and I will never date another black man in my life!
I agree with everything you said man I know folks is hating but dawg u telling the Truth.. To hell with these black women
Trust me Black women…Black men are nothing to cry over. get over them.
Look at some of the most beautiful black women like
Halle Berry
Tyra Banks
Niaomi Campbell
Eve
etc.
They found out whats real and its not a low down black man
the funny thing is one of your reasons for not dating a black woman is that they will get mad when you cheat on them……? honey, if that’s your defense, then i sure as hell wouldn’t want to date you, no matter what color you are. and if i were another race besides black, i’d still be offended, because you’re basically saying other races let you walk all over them. this has nothing to do with your color, this is about you as a human being, and you don’t sound appealing in the least.
Ok ok enough is enough. I as a black man am done with American black women in my age group. I think its hard to find a good woman no matter what color in the 18-30 age group. May be the same for American men but I cant speak on that cus I don’t date men. I feel that back in the day women knew how to take care of their man and vise versa. Most young black women that I dated in the past were very self centered, mean, had a flock of kids (I have none), couldn’t cook (I can and do), couldn’t clean, were too smart for their own good, manipulative, and the list goes on. In short I felt they wanted to world from me and didn’t want to do the same for me. I cant lie I love black women. Light, dark or whatever! If I were a white dude I would probably still date sisters. Just not American ones. I found myself a nice black Jamaican woman and married her. American sisters should take notes instead of complaining about us dating outside of our race. Damn don’t yall get it yet!
Brother man, i kind of see your point. I am a black woman (African, Ethiopian to be specific). At least you are not like these other moron black men on this page talking about how they prefer white women because they are simply “better.” They sound ignorant and self-loathing…because they are obssessed with the whiteness of white women. But they don’t realize that they are degrading and insulting themselves when they talk/look down on their own race of women.
At least you are intelligent enough to be specific about WHAT you don’t like about American Black women (their values). I don’t get mad at men who don’t date women from a certain culture with specific moral/value, because you are judging the BEHAVIOR that sets that group apart and NOT the entire race. I, for instance, am an Ethiopian women but not a big fan of most Ethiopian men. I have a good reason for that…they are raised to think women are beneath them and a wife should serve her husband. Again, NOT all are like that but MOST of the ones I dated and grew up with. So, I started dating out. not because I hate my own race of men BUT because I don’t believe in unequal marriage. I just can’t stand that BEHAVIOR/culture. I found love with a white man, and I have been happily married with a beautiful baby girl for about three years now.
Bottom line is, everyone is entitled to have preference. But many African American men hate their own women (they just can’t stand black women and are brainwashed into thinking white is better). They don’t realize that they can date outside of their race WITHOUT degrading their own kind. It is very sad.
Whoo cares? All this anti black women rant on this page is ridiculous. Date who you want to date, but stop tearing down blackwomen while you do. Its a shame when a person dates a few bad apples and he puts that on an entire race.
Who cares? All this anti black women rant on this page is ridiculous. Date who you want to date, but stop tearing down blackwomen while you do. Its a shame when a person dates a few bad apples and he puts that on an entire race.
WHO GIVES A FUCK! Why can’t we just date who we want to and not bash each other????
im not about to waste my time posting a grammatically correct comment{[i get enough of that with my english courses =) ]}
but anywho, clearly from my name im AA…i grew up in what most ppl would consider a ‘ghetto’..but yet my mom only let me attend white schools, all of my friends were white, my first crush was justin timberlake..lol..
when i graduated college i was _FORCED_ to attend a HBCU, and i was pissed and nervous because i had never been fully surrounded MY people..yea my freshman year i found the only white girl in my bldg and ofcourse it was like love at first site because we automatically bonded..
THIS ISNT AN AUTOBIOGRAPHY OF ME..SO MOVING ALOOONG..lol..
this is my 3rd year at this HBCU and i can NOT explain how much i have learned not only about MY self..but MY culture and i thinks its so cool that NO other race is like us with the way we dance, our poetry, the TEXTURE of OUR ‘NAPPY’ hair..and all the creative styles that we can do..the shape of our bodies..{{which white woman have plastic surgery for..including our natural big lips..]}…
LOVE DOES NOT HAVE A RACE!!!!..i have dated out of my race SOO many times..and i come to realize that i TRUELY LOVE black men..and before i didnt even date them!!…yes i get made fun of because i talk and dress like a ‘white girl’ but they still accept me..
BLACK WOMEN ARE NOT GOLD DIGGERS!!..im not going to there in depth because i as u can see i talk alot..
AND OH YEA..GUESS WHAT???..IM GOING NATURAL..YEP I AM..and the statement about cutting hair off is stupid and not natural and blah blah blah..actually THE CHEMICALLY STRAIGHTENED HAIR THAT WE WEAR >IS NOT< NATURAL….go youtube a few natural hair videos and you will see the beauty of..
different othe NON BLACK PEOPLE cant write all their comments but you dont know what it feels like for someone who looks like you to degrade you so much and GLORIFY the ones who made him hate himself and every1 like him..
but thats all folks..i have to GO WRAP MY HAIR BEFOR I GO TO BED..
P.S…IF I DIED AND HAD THE CHANCE TO COME BACK AS ANYTHING I WANTED..I COME BACK : BLACK..AND A WOMAN!!!
POW!
II am a 60-something black female who has been happily married for the past 40 year to a strong BLACK MAN. We met and married in college, when “I’m Black and Proud” was the theme of the day. Having grown up during that pivotal time in our history, I am shocked by the level of self hatred and ignorance reflected in some of the posts. I have no problem with interracial relationships if the individuals involved enter into the relationship out of love and respect for each other, and not out of dislike for women or men of their own race. One should suspect self-hatred anytime a black man feels the need to vilify black women in order to justify his preference for white women. Actually, I pity the white women in these relationships because they are valued based on what they represent to men who cannot love their black selves. If a black male cannot love his black self, can he love anyone? I once heard a black man say that he felt powerful and worthwhile with a white woman on his arm because he knew that he had taken something of value from the white man. I thought this was quite sad because the mere act of “taking” the white man’s “woman” has never bestowed power on anyone. We were able to bring about changes during the Civil Rights era because we, black men AND black women, came together and demanded a piece of the pie. Granted, as black people, we have been socialized to despise everything black, and love everything white. I believe this is the reason black on black crime, including domestic violence, is so prevalent in our communities. Young ladies, do not grieve over the “colored” men who want to wallow in their self-hatred. Let them go! There are many black men out there who love themselves and who can love women who share their racial characteristics. By all means, raise your son to love and respect himself.
This here is interesting! However before I leave my comment let me give a small brief background on myself.
I am a 24 years old African American Army Officer single mother of one and do not feel the need to rely on a man, purple, blue, green, white, nor black.
However I want to encourage the writer to really look at himself. Where did you come from? A strong black woman. Who made sure you had a roof over your head, food in your stomach, and clothes on your back? That strong black women.
You state Latino’s cook. White women don’t complain. However riddle me this? Who can attend a four year university, work a full time job, and raise well respectable children, and graduate within three years, and make it look all so effortless? You give up? Ready for the answer? A women of color.
Honey there is nothing wrong with dating outside your race. However here is something wrong with you!
Just for the record my little girl is mixed African American, Barbados, and Puerto Rican.
But she is still being raised by a strong black woman.
Strength, I don’t understand your point. What’s wrong with wanting to date a non combative woman? Some men really don’t want to put up with all that “strong black woman” stuff. Don’t get me wrong. There is nothing wrong with that mind set but some men don’t want to deal with all that. Some men prefer to date a woman that expresses more meekness than bossiness that tends to come along with the “independent black woman”. Why does there have to be something WRONG with a man that prefers something different?
It is a know psychological fact that an individuals self hatred, denial of identify and identity crisis often manifests in avoidance of anything that is a reminder of who they really are. Black men are no exception. They don’t want to be reminded of where they came from and have difficulty accepting their looks, coarse hair, and all the other significant and valuable characteristics that make them who they are.
Many often grow in in single households where their mothers had to be both parents and they carry a great deal of resentment towards the black women who made them who they are becasue they spent most of their time dreaming of how to get away from the nightmare lives. They are so vain and measure their looks by old European standards while all of Europe is turning into the biggest African based melting pot.
These men basically hate themselves and are not typically strong enough to stand up to women who will not tolerate someone who will contribute in a relationship or marriage. Additionally, when they are in a position to be responsible, contributing citizens in society, they do not want to share it with their own black women becasue of their self hatred. They feel that these women don’t deserve it as much as the glorious and subserviant white woman.
Slavery divided black men and women intentionally so they would not be obligated to or be able to identify with a true culture of their own. The black man continues to perpetuate the old slave masters ultimate goal – divide and conquer. He is still a slave trying to imitate the lifestyle of “massa.”
To all my beautiful black women, I’m sorry for all of these self-hating negros negative comments. We as black people, some of us are brainwashed. The hole freaking world want to look like black women like sun tanning for darker skin, lip injections for full lips, booty injections for big booty, boob job for bigger tits but noooooo blacks are suppose to be ugly?????? Black women are under attack, and I just hope, that some of my Real brothas can stand up and define there honor. Again as a black man I’m sorry,
P.S. And stop reading crap like this. Black women have been the backbone of our race for far to long, it’s time for real black men to stand the f*&k up, stop going to jail and open up a darn book. We owe it to our beautiful black queens. And yes I love a little sassiest in my black women, very sexy. Only real man can handle it, just more for me.
Everyone has their preference. But me personally, I sure as hell DON’T date black men cause from my perspective, they’re the most ignorant, uneducated, self-loathing idiots out of all races. They have no clue on how to treat a black woman right. My bf right now is Korean American and we love eachother to death. Most of my exes are Latino American. I’ve tried to date the black brotha, but all that happened to me when I was with a black man (3 men I dated to be exact), was a bunch of games. No offense, but I sincerely suggest that Black women stop even looking to be with a black man PERIOD. I don’t see anything that’s good about them. Plus, most American black men are just plain unattractive. So, I guess no matter what we think: To each his own…
why are we the only people that blast eachother on blogs?”why are we looking for others to fix a deep rooted issue amongst us? why are these same lame ass excuses still being brought up about why we dont date eachother?…. I encourage all to flood the internet with positive things about our race for a change.I am also an educated black woman, with sophisticated intelligent friends who are black and needless to say we all feel like there is nothing like the being in the arms of a black man period. African American Women don’t look outside their race as much because we yearn for our brothers heart. If you are not rolling in the right circles, then it is hard to see what the good sistas are doing.
Black,White,Asian,doesn’ matter, they are all just a piece of ass to me.
Guy up there who loves black women…..nothing is sexier than a black man who appreciates and stands up for his women and that is the truth. I love real strong intelligent men…..so so sexy! lol. I will admit…there are things black women need to change but we do love our black men and always have.
I’m a black women, but I hate how the black race is always downing the white people cuz of their skin. It makes me sick! plus this pic confuses me. I think they trying to make the black woman look good, but the white one would if her head wasn’t shaving. God, what iz wrong with people?!
@ Denesha No offense but, In the arms of a black brotha? Oh please, you’re just another delusional black woman who’s just going to be waiting for an eternity for her “black” prince charming. Get a grip, they don’t want us anymore. It’s time we get revenge and let them feel the burn that we feel. That burn of rejection….
“Although virtually all cultures express a marked preference for fair female skin, even those with little or no exposure to European imperialism, and even those whose members are heavily pigmented, the trend … in integrated societies has [been toward] increasing popularity for men of colour, especially those [of] African descent. These trends have been recorded in areas such as South America, where in Brazil it was estimated that by 2009 black people of African descent will be the single most dominant ethnic group. In popular media in the western world ‘blacks’ have been repeatedly surrounded by advantageous stereotypes and myths that praise their athletic aptitudes amongst many other things, and often depict them as males of superior genetic inheritance.”
This was an interesting read. Unfortunately, I don’t understand why black males, like this blogger, feel the need to share their opinions of black women.
The views stated by the author only act to perpetuate false and negative stereotypes against black women.
A smart individual would know not to apply these stereotypes to the whole. Unfortunately, smart people are few and far inbetween these days.
In my mind, if a person needs to announce that they like to date non-black women it means that they are looking for attention and also have what I’ll label as a “self-hating” or “confused” persona.
I for one like to date outside of the black race. That is my preference. I’ve dating within my race and out of it because I want to. It’s my life and I’ll date who I want.
My preference is a university educated person. I worked hard for my education and I want the same in a partner no matter what colour.
People just need to date who they want and not broadcast it. Look, no one cares who you date. No one is judging you as you walk down the street with your girlfriend.
You are the only one judging yourself and judging others. I’m very dissapointed in this black on black racism. I hope everyone realizes that black people are the “butt-of-the-joke” because of this negativity.
When I was dating a white man I didn’t go and broadcast it to the world. That didn’t matter to me. It’s the happiness of the whole that matters.
Wowzers!!
lol hey bro you date whoever you want im not mad at yoou. ppl getting worked up over a blog. Hey as long as you got a good woman you got a good thing. I have a black girlfriend and we are great together. I dont agree at all with what you are saying but you definitely have every right to say it…
my nigga is right .. i mean every girl will get mad when u cheat on them, but black women get mad when you dont, or whenever she doesnt get her way,or if shes wrong and dont admit it. my point is that most black women have a major attitude problem and think they are the queen of sheeba or some sort of rockstar and that we owe them somethin or like there some kind f prize. those black women who feel that way need to wake up and realize that more black guys are not gonna put up wit your bullshit antics much longer
Black women,epsecially professional black women have their standards set by white women.This is why we have such’DiScOnboBUlaTeD’ behavior from black women,which turns us off from wanting to be with them as black men.All she see’s is things her way,assimilating to the europeans culture with ease becoming the piece of meat she is.
to be honest. ALL OF THIS IS NONSENSE!!
I mean, black women, aren’t all as you describe, BUT the ones who usually complain about it usually do all of those things. Another thing is that it is FUCKED UP!!
I mean, it is ok for a black man to date interracial, but (epically in south Chicago) Gets ready to kill people for “taking all OUR (black) women away”. EVERYONE CAN DATE EVERYONE!! STOP TRYING TO MAKE IT A ONE RACE DEAL. BLACK WOMEN, DATE OTHER RACES! STOP TRYING TO MAKE IT AS IF IT IS WRONG TO DATE OUT OF YOUR RACE! THAT IS JUST LIKE THE WOMEN WHO HATES GAYS BECAUSE THEY ARE WRONG WHEN REALLY IT IS JUST THAT THE WOMEN WANT THAT GUY BUT SCENE HE IS GAY THEY WANT TO SEAM IT UNFAIR! Grow up alrealy
~ the Okinawan
Hmmm…it’s funny how hypocritical this guy is; in his rant, basically said that black women generalize when it comes to black men, but went on to generalize black women. Not all black women behave in the ways he mentioned; with that said, we black women aren’t missing out on anything when it comes to him as a potential partner. He has definitely painted himself as a scum bag.
Hi, I’m 15 and I read this article because I just wanted to know why black guys are suddenly starting to hate black women. I’m a milk chocolate and I hear guys talk about redbones and light skin girls. I think that I’m just As beautiful. Maybe I dot have hair As straight As theirs or eyes As light As theirs by I’m still beautiful-just the way God intended me to be. Honestly, light skin black girls are the same as us darker skin girls. They’re just a lighter shade. I heard the term the lighter the brighter the better and I don’t think that’s true. I hink hearing people like you writing such a stereotypical blog or whatever this is degrades black women and you NEED to be ashamed. I understand everyone has his or her own opinion but you just totally idk…I’m hurt that people feel that way about darker skin black girls. Its just a few that give us all a bad name Nd that goes with any race so the fact that you have decided to go off of and promote these stereotypes just magnifies your obvious ignorance of the TRUE beauty and DIVERSITY of black women. I guess its up to US strong, beautiful, and confident black ladies to let each other know how beautiful we are and how much we matter. I do hope that you find someone that will make you happy and I wish you the best. (:
BM are damaged even white women are sick of their closeted gay jailbird asses.
I pit the ww who dates that coon! I am sure he is black and ugly and his kids will be black and he will ruin them then abandon them!
Black men are trash.
Lazy, abandon their children, will date ugly fat women just for a light skin baby.
Cowards the only men on planet earth who do not defend their own children and women.
You could not pay me to date a black american men, sell out trash, self hating coons.
Black men can drop dead due to them the black community is ruined.
Travel the world and ask other cultures what do they think of black men?
TRASH. A man is judged by his kids black men are fucking useless the world would be better off without all those coons.
Yup white women are sick of you coons
“Maid Thomas, on February 15, 2010 at 1:05 am said:
I have just ended a relationship with a black man (the second black man), I am white and I have to tell you both of them were users and I will never date another black man in my life!”
BINGO coons are users even ww know it.
Now what< coon?
Black woman act like men , than want a man, it will never happen.no femininity, im not defending that.if youll cant act right, youll be sex toys, and used.Fuck how good you look, when i cant get no peace of mind.thats just me.Dont get it twisted, if your black and smart than be that, but that attitude shit will make me pick a a tranny over you.
thats just me tho
I didn’t read the article, but I’m sure it’s the same BS black women have been reading for the last 5 years. I remember my first beginnings on the internet and how ww would defend black males to the death over this topic… I don’t see ww defending bm as much anymore. They are learning the truth about SOME black men. We have exceptional black males in the community, but I am responding to black men who bash black women all over the internet. These black males feel guilty about the 70% singleness rate among black women. Instead of taking responsibility, they want to project that guilt on to black women. Sure there are some undesirable black women, just as their is undesirable women in various races. But the truth is 60% of black women are educated and supporting their families without the assistance of black men. I even know black women who have several children, who completed their higher educational degrees without help or assistance from anyone. Black males who do not take responsibility by blaming black women are usually womanizers, broke, uneducated, users who only want to have their egos stroked by other women because they feel so rotten about themselves. The functional black men handle their business and they don’t go around bashing and attacking all black women. I think these dysfunctional men hate black women because they are so unconsciously resentful towards their black mothers. They hate that their mothers raised them to be “momma’s boys”. That is why they rarely think twice about attacking all black women. Being as women are only nurturers, women can not teach men how to be men. She can only nurture a man to adulthood, but once he becomes a man, it is important for him to have healthy minded males to model after. These black males are miserable and they want to take bw women.. or any other woman, down with them. They needs education and they need jobs. Black males have been the most down trotted males and overlooked. They have no social programs for black boys. So these men grow up with very low self esteem. But they do not realize that tearing down their woman, isn’t the answer. These black men have also been systematically brainwashed by a white supremacy media that idolizes white women. Every race of man knows that he is suppose to protect his woman and protect his children… the lot of dysfunctional black men do not understand this. (I am not talking about functional black men… love them)
Oh.. and the responses that really had me in tears were the ones made by the teenage females having to read all this garbage. I couldn’t hold back my ugly cry and I’m sorry innocent young girls have to feel so bad about their skin color and their desirability factor. God bless you and keep your chin up.
Its truly shamefull that people have to make excuses for why they dont like someone.If you dont like black women…fine!!! But you really dont have to go as far as to down an entire race of women..YOUR race..to prove a point. I know tons of black men that at one point sharedthe same views..but later found out that your White goddess was really no different..thats why we see so many white girls with lil mixed babies..and NO daddy.But no one is sitting here saying that all black men father babies and dont take care of them.No one is on here saying that all black men are selfish and need their egos stroked.No one is on here speaking about all the stereptypes we hear about black men..so why do it to us?
Speaking of attitudes..black men have attitudes too!!!My white friends that date black guys alway talk about your attitudes. Arrogant,stubborn,alot of times unmotivated,and you always expect the most..without putting forth any real effort…and to think..I defended you..Lol..what a slap in the face.You dont have to love a black women…but why hate us?Yes I agree that alot of women grew up misguided..but not just black there are alot of white..hispanic.BABY MAMAS out there with multiple fathers of their children also.So for you to specifically point out black women..is unfair.And its sad..even the white girls complain about you..so instead of running to them expecting a quick FIX..take some time to fix you.
No black hoes for me. I want some mexican pussy!!!
I don’t get what Young Fresh was saying:
“I think it’s stupid that black women cut their hair off to try to look like something they are not. I just cant deal with the fake stuff…..I prefer my vanilla”
How do black women cut off their hair and represent a completely different person? It’s hair. Such an idiot! The hair texture that grows out of our scalps is our true hair. Black women can’t even accept that hair without being torn down, told we’re ugly.
Yet, black men can walk around with whatever hair they care to.
Oh wait, most black men I see wear their hair in a caesar cut! Yes, REALLY low.
I guess that goes to show what black people think of themselves. Look at some white men. The white male population at a whole wear their hair in varying lengths. Black men do grow out longer hair but they mostly wear their hair in low cuts.
Black women want to embrace their natural hair, I don’t see anything wrong with that. Don’t complain about them wearing weaves, always perming their hair when you see a good amount of black women wearing natural hair.
It’s really sad most little black boys grow up barely knowing what a black woman with natural hair looks like. They should be, so they can have open views on what the beauty of a black woman can be.
I’d raise my sons knowing that they can see the very different beauties in black hair. They’ll be accepting of it. Hopefully.
This society has us disgusted with each other.
Black actresses, performers, you barely see any with “natural” hair. Now Jill Scott doesn’t wear hers like that. Leela James has always been an interesting person though. Whether she wears a weave or not, at least she’s wearing one that represents the texture that would most likely grow out of her scalp!
BLACKS ARE NOT HUMAN. RUN.
@Adri
*yawn*
You must have choked on some BBC, now you’re mad.
Persistence helps us to stack the odds in our favor.
With the beautiful flowing melody, brilliant harmonies and poetic lyrics,
“White Winter Hymnal” gets its fair share of play on my mp3 player.
This was true on their first release, but becomes very noticeable on Contra with
its depth, breadth, and synthesis of genres.